Holidays and Grief

Holidays and Grief

The holiday season is supposed to be the most beautiful time of the year but not for everyone. The pain of losing a loved one seems to become heavier during the holiday season.

How can we deal with our grief during the holidays? Here are some of the things we can do to lighten the burden and enjoy the time we have our loved ones who are still with us.

Be honest with yourself. Don’t cover your grief by celebrating nonstop during the holidays or by pretending that nothing sad had happened. The best way is to stop, reflect, and remind yourself that this holiday will be different from the past and it’s not okay. Don’t pretend and acknowledging this fact as it will surely help you all throughout the occasion.

Say no if you don’t want to. If you’re not in the holiday feels then don’t join the parties. Say no if you think that it will do just everything worse or sadder than it is.

But if you want to enjoy, don’t feel guilty. The holiday is a time to enjoy and be grateful, and if you want to enjoy, the do it. Grieving isn’t an excuse for you to dismiss the people around you, especially your loved ones. Don’t grieve because you think you should. Remember, it’s also important to celebrate the lives of the people around you who are alive; invest in them, too.

Find support not only during the holidays. Acknowledge the fact that you need support and find the best support you can. The best way to deal with grief, not only during the holidays, is to share it with those who understand what you’re going through. However, don’t shut other people down because you think they don’t understand you.

Forgive yourself. Sometimes, the holidays remind of the things we neglected when our loved one was still alive. However, you have to forgive and stop resenting yourself slowly. Remember, the holiday also marks a new beginning, so take advantage of it and start forgiving yourself.