The Funeral.com Journal

Resources to help you create tributes as unique as the people (and pets) you love. Learn how engraving, photos, colors, and symbols add meaning; discover scattering rituals and at-home memorial ideas. We focus on the details that matter—because small choices can carry a lifetime of comfort.

Funeral Colors and Dress Code: When Black Isn’t Required

Funeral Colors and Dress Code: When Black Isn’t Required

Standing in front of your closet before a service can feel strangely stressful. You want to show up with care, not distraction. You want the family to feel supported, not...

Funeral Thank-You Notes: Who to Thank, When to Send, and Message Templates

Funeral Thank-You Notes: Who to Thank, When to Send, and Message Templates

After a funeral, the world gets quiet in a way that can feel both merciful and strange. The calls slow down. The car leaves the driveway. The last casserole dish...

Funeral Tie Etiquette: Best Tie Colors, Patterns & Knots (Plus When You Can Skip the Tie)

Funeral Tie Etiquette: Best Tie Colors, Patterns & Knots (Plus When You Can Skip the Tie)

When you’re getting ready for a funeral, it’s rarely just about clothes. It’s about showing up for someone—often on a day when emotions are heavy and everyone feels a little...

What to Wear to a Memorial Service or Celebration of Life: Modern Etiquette & Outfit Ideas

What to Wear to a Memorial Service or Celebration of Life: Modern Etiquette & Outfit Ideas

If you’ve ever stared into your closet before a memorial and felt your stomach drop, you’re not alone. The hard part isn’t the clothing—it’s the fear of getting it wrong...

What Should a Woman Wear to a Funeral? Respectful Outfit Ideas, Colors & Etiquette

What Should a Woman Wear to a Funeral? Respectful Outfit Ideas, Colors & Etiquette

If you’re standing in front of your closet thinking, “Why does this feel so hard?”, you’re not alone. Grief makes even simple choices feel heavy. And when you’re trying to...

What to Wear to a Funeral: Dress Code Basics for Men, Women & Kids

What to Wear to a Funeral: Dress Code Basics for Men, Women & Kids

If you’re staring at your closet and feeling unsure, you’re in good company. Most people don’t attend funerals often, and the rules can feel both unspoken and high-stakes—especially when you’re...

Funeral Flowers and Color Meanings: How to Choose the Right Sympathy Arrangement

Funeral Flowers and Color Meanings: How to Choose the Right Sympathy Arrangement

Standing in front of a florist’s cooler—or scrolling through pages of arrangements late at night—can make grief feel even louder. You want to show up with something kind, something appropriate,...

When You Find Out About a Death Late: Reaching Out, Apologizing, and Handling Mixed Emotions

When You Find Out About a Death Late: Reaching Out, Apologizing, and Handling Mixed Emotions

There is a particular kind of shock that comes from learning about a death long after it happened. It can arrive in a stray social media post, a forwarded email...

What to Say at a Funeral: Comforting Words for In-Person Condolences, Sympathy Cards, and Funeral Flowers

What to Say at a Funeral: Comforting Words for In-Person Condolences, Sympathy Cards, and Funeral Flowers

Most people don’t freeze at a funeral because they don’t care. They freeze because they care so much that they’re afraid of making grief worse. You step into a room...

Funeral Attire Etiquette: What to Wear to a Wake, Visitation, and Funeral

Funeral Attire Etiquette: What to Wear to a Wake, Visitation, and Funeral

If you’re reading this with a closet door open and a knot in your stomach, you’re not alone. Grief has a way of making even simple choices feel loaded: shoes,...

Funeral Flower Etiquette: What to Send, When to Send It, and What It Means

Funeral Flower Etiquette: What to Send, When to Send It, and What It Means

When someone dies, flowers can feel like the “safe” thing to do—until you realize how many choices sit behind that simple gesture. Do you send something to the service or...

What to Say When Someone Dies: Condolence Messages That Actually Help

What to Say When Someone Dies: Condolence Messages That Actually Help

There’s a particular kind of helplessness that shows up when you hear the news: someone has died, and now you’re holding your phone, staring at a blank message field, thinking,...

Seasonal Grave Decorations: Ideas for Spring, Summer, Fall, and Winter Within Cemetery Rules

Seasonal Grave Decorations: Ideas for Spring, Summer, Fall, and Winter Within Cemetery Rules

A gravesite changes with the seasons, even when nothing “new” is added. Grass grows fast in spring, heat bakes flowers in summer, leaves pile up in fall, and winter can...

Visiting a National Cemetery: Etiquette, Photography Rules, and How to Honor the Space

Visiting a National Cemetery: Etiquette, Photography Rules, and How to Honor the Space

There are places that ask something quiet of us the moment we arrive. A national cemetery is one of them. Even before you read a sign or see a uniform,...

What Is the Most Appreciated Sympathy Gift?

What Is the Most Appreciated Sympathy Gift?

When someone you care about is grieving, the question isn’t just what to give—it’s how to show up in a way that feels sincere, comforting, and lasting. The most appreciated...

What Is a Wake in Modern Funerals? Origins, Traditions, and How It Looks Today

What Is a Wake in Modern Funerals? Origins, Traditions, and How It Looks Today

If you grew up hearing the word “wake,” you might picture a home full of people who knew exactly where to stand, what to bring, and how long to stay....