The Funeral.com Journal

Resources to help you create tributes as unique as the people (and pets) you love. Learn how engraving, photos, colors, and symbols add meaning; discover scattering rituals and at-home memorial ideas. We focus on the details that matter—because small choices can carry a lifetime of comfort.

What to Say at a Funeral: Comforting Words for In-Person Condolences, Sympathy Cards, and Funeral Flowers

What to Say at a Funeral: Comforting Words for In-Person Condolences, Sympathy Cards, and Funeral Flowers

Most people don’t freeze at a funeral because they don’t care. They freeze because they care so much that they’re afraid of making grief worse. You step into a room...

Funeral Attire Etiquette: What to Wear to a Wake, Visitation, and Funeral

Funeral Attire Etiquette: What to Wear to a Wake, Visitation, and Funeral

If you’re reading this with a closet door open and a knot in your stomach, you’re not alone. Grief has a way of making even simple choices feel loaded: shoes,...

Funeral Flower Etiquette: What to Send, When to Send It, and What It Means

Funeral Flower Etiquette: What to Send, When to Send It, and What It Means

When someone dies, flowers can feel like the “safe” thing to do—until you realize how many choices sit behind that simple gesture. Do you send something to the service or...

What to Say When Someone Dies: Condolence Messages That Actually Help

What to Say When Someone Dies: Condolence Messages That Actually Help

There’s a particular kind of helplessness that shows up when you hear the news: someone has died, and now you’re holding your phone, staring at a blank message field, thinking,...

Seasonal Grave Decorations: Ideas for Spring, Summer, Fall, and Winter Within Cemetery Rules

Seasonal Grave Decorations: Ideas for Spring, Summer, Fall, and Winter Within Cemetery Rules

A gravesite changes with the seasons, even when nothing “new” is added. Grass grows fast in spring, heat bakes flowers in summer, leaves pile up in fall, and winter can...

Visiting a National Cemetery: Etiquette, Photography Rules, and How to Honor the Space

Visiting a National Cemetery: Etiquette, Photography Rules, and How to Honor the Space

There are places that ask something quiet of us the moment we arrive. A national cemetery is one of them. Even before you read a sign or see a uniform,...

What Is the Most Appreciated Sympathy Gift?

What Is the Most Appreciated Sympathy Gift?

When someone you care about is grieving, the question isn’t just what to give—it’s how to show up in a way that feels sincere, comforting, and lasting. The most appreciated...

What Is a Wake in Modern Funerals? Origins, Traditions, and How It Looks Today

What Is a Wake in Modern Funerals? Origins, Traditions, and How It Looks Today

If you grew up hearing the word “wake,” you might picture a home full of people who knew exactly where to stand, what to bring, and how long to stay....

Funeral Flower Etiquette: What to Send, When to Send It, and How to Respect the Family’s Wishes

Funeral Flower Etiquette: What to Send, When to Send It, and How to Respect the Family’s Wishes

If you’ve ever stared at a florist’s menu or lingered in a grocery store aisle thinking, “I genuinely want to do the right thing… but what is the right thing?”...

Funeral, Wake, and Visitation: What Each One Means and How to Choose What Fits Your Family

Funeral, Wake, and Visitation: What Each One Means and How to Choose What Fits Your Family

In the first days after a death, language can feel like one more thing you’re expected to “get right” while you’re barely sleeping. Someone says “we’ll have a wake,” another...

Wake Etiquette 101: What to Wear, What to Say, and How Long to Stay

Wake Etiquette 101: What to Wear, What to Say, and How Long to Stay

Walking into a wake can feel strangely intimidating, even when your intentions are completely good. You might be thinking about the door you’re about to open, the family you care...

How Pet Wakes and Human Wakes Are Similar—and Different

How Pet Wakes and Human Wakes Are Similar—and Different

When someone we love dies, our brains do two things at once: they grieve, and they reach for structure. A wake—whether it’s called a visitation, a gathering, a remembrance, or...

Open vs. Closed Casket Funerals: What to Expect & How to Choose

Open vs. Closed Casket Funerals: What to Expect & How to Choose

When you are in the middle of planning a funeral, the question of an open casket funeral versus a closed casket funeral can land like a weight you did not...

Bringing a Living Pet to a Funeral or Cemetery: Etiquette, Pros and Cons, and Safety Tips

Bringing a Living Pet to a Funeral or Cemetery: Etiquette, Pros and Cons, and Safety Tips

There’s a particular kind of quiet that settles around a funeral home chapel or a cemetery lane. It’s not just the absence of noise—it’s the feeling that everyone is carrying...

How to Compliment a Nice Memorial for Loss of Pet?

How to Compliment a Nice Memorial for Loss of Pet?

A thoughtfully created pet memorial reflects deep love, cherished memories, and the unique bond shared between a pet and their family. When someone invests time and care into honoring their...

What Is the Best Thing to Say Instead of Condolences?

What Is the Best Thing to Say Instead of Condolences?

When someone you care about experiences a loss, it can feel almost impossible to find the right words. Simple phrases like “condolences” are common, yet they often fail to capture...