When a family asks what to do with ashes, the real question is usually two questions at once: what kind of goodbye fits the life youâre honoring, and what container makes that plan easier in real life. You do not have to decide everything immediately. Many families choose a secure urn first, then take time to decide whether they will keep, scatter, bury, or plan a water burial ceremony later.
This choice comes up more often because cremation is now the majority disposition in the U.S. According to the National Funeral Directors Association, the U.S. cremation rate is projected to be 63.4% in 2025. The Cremation Association of North America reports a 2024 U.S. cremation rate of 61.8%. In other words, more families are making ashes decisions, and they deserve clearer guidance than âit depends.â
As you read, keep one grounding idea in mind: the âbestâ urn is not the most expensive one. Itâs the one that matches your plan. Funeral.comâs cremation urns for ashes collection is organized around the paths families actually take, including home display, burial, scattering, and eco-conscious options.
The Quick Match: Plan to Urn Type
If you want a fast answer you can share with family, this table is the simplest way to match intention to container. Then you can refine materials, size, and style.
| Your Plan | Urn Type That Fits Best | Why It Works | What to Confirm |
|---|---|---|---|
| Keep at home | Durable display urn | Designed for long-term safekeeping | Stable placement and secure closure |
| Scatter on land | Scattering urn or scattering tube | More control in wind and uneven terrain | Permission and local park rules |
| Bury in cemetery | Burial-suitable urn (durable) or cemetery-approved biodegradable urn | Matches long-term conditions underground | Cemetery requirements, including possible urn vault rules |
| Water burial | Water-soluble biodegradable urn | Dissolves and releases gently in water | Ocean rules differ from lakes and rivers |
| Some scattered, some kept | Main urn plus keepsakes or jewelry | Balances an anchor memorial with a meaningful location | Decide the portion plan before scattering |
Keep the Ashes
Keeping ashes at home is often the least stressful choice when a family wants privacy, flexibility, and time. It can be a final plan, or it can be a calm pause while you decide whether scattering or burial fits later. Funeral.comâs guide Keeping Ashes at Home focuses on safety, respectful placement, and the emotional fit of living with a memorial.
For home display, durability matters more than any single material. Many families start with full size cremation urns when they want one primary container, and they choose small cremation urns when they want a compact memorial, a second location memorial, or a âshare laterâ option. If personalization matters, engravable cremation urns for ashes can turn the urn into something unmistakably personal with a name, dates, or a short phrase.
Scatter the Ashes
Scattering can feel open and freeing, but the logistics can surprise families. Wind, crowds, uneven terrain, and the simple desire to keep the moment dignified are why a purpose-built scattering container helps. Funeral.comâs guide Scattering Ashes: Laws, Locations, and Meaningful Ideas covers permissions, meaningful locations, and practical ideas that make scattering calmer.
Two rules prevent most problems. First, get permission for private land. Second, check public land rules before you travel. Many National Park Service units require permits for scattering human cremated remains, and requirements vary by park. The National Park Service explains that permission is typically granted with an application process for scattering human cremated remains in Yosemite National Park.
For the container, families often do best starting with Funeral.comâs biodegradable urns, because this collection includes scattering tubes and eco-friendly options designed for travel and controlled release. If you think you may want to keep a portion, decide that before the ceremony and set aside a portion in keepsake urns or cremation necklaces so you are not forced into a rushed decision later.
Bury the Ashes
Burial can mean cemetery burial in a plot, placement in an urn garden, or a green burial area that prefers biodegradable containers. Because rules vary, the most important step is calling the cemetery or burial ground before you buy. Cemeteries may have requirements around urn size, material, and whether an outer container such as an urn vault or liner is required. Funeral.comâs article Understanding Your Cemetery Contract explains why these details matter and how they shape urn choices.
For traditional cemetery burial, many families choose a durable urn and then follow the cemeteryâs outer container rules. Categories like metal cremation urns or marble cremation urns are common when long-term protection is the priority. For green burial areas, biodegradable options are often a better match, and Funeral.comâs article Do Urns Decompose? explains how biodegradable urns are designed to break down in soil while traditional urns are designed for durability.
Water Burial
People use water burial to mean two different things. One is a personal ceremony using a water-soluble urn in a lake, river, or coastal setting. The other is a formal burial at sea in ocean waters. The urn type may look similar, but the rules can be very different.
Burial at sea in ocean waters
In the United States, the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency explains that cremated human remains may be buried in or on ocean waters provided the burial takes place at least three nautical miles from land. The EPA also describes a requirement to notify the agency within 30 days of the burial at sea conducted under the general permit. The federal regulation that includes the three-nautical-mile requirement is in 40 CFR 229.1.
One important note for families: the EPAâs burial-at-sea framework applies to human remains, and it does not authorize the burial at sea of pet or non-human remains under that general permit structure.
Water ceremonies in lakes, rivers, and nearshore settings
Many families use the term water burial to describe a gentle ceremony where ashes are released using a dissolving urn designed for that setting. Funeral.comâs guide Understanding What Happens During a Water Burial Ceremony describes why these urns can feel calmer than a wind-driven scattering: the urn dissolves and releases gradually. In practice, families usually start with Funeral.comâs biodegradable urns, which includes water-soluble options designed for water ceremonies.
When Your Plan Is a Mix
Many families choose a hybrid plan: keep the ashes for a while, then scatter or bury later, or scatter most and keep a portion. This is where a main urn plus keepsakes becomes a calm, regret-resistant approach. Funeral.comâs keepsake cremation urns are designed for small portions, and cremation jewelry can hold a tiny, symbolic amount when someone wants a daily connection.
The same framework works for pets, just with different sizing. Families often choose one primary memorial from pet cremation urns for ashes, then share small portions using pet keepsake cremation urns if multiple people want a connection.
Four Questions That Make the Choice Easier
If you want a quick decision filter, these questions usually move families forward without forcing a decision they are not ready to make.
- Do we want a specific place, or do we want flexibility for now?
- Will multiple people want a portion, or do we want one shared memorial?
- Will this container travel, go into the ground, go into water, or live on a shelf?
- What would feel respectful and workable one year from now, not just today?
If you want to browse by plan rather than by style, start with cremation urns for ashes, then narrow to biodegradable urns for scattering and water ceremonies, or to keepsake urns and cremation jewelry when sharing a portion is part of the plan.
Meta description: Scatter, bury, keep, or plan a water burial? Use this guide to match each plan to the right urn type, including biodegradable urns for scattering and water ceremonies, burial-suitable urns for cemeteries, and keepsakes for sharing.
